Are you questioning yourself right now?

It feels like the pressure is on, doesn’t it?

The Wall Street Journal recently noted how companies are dialing up long hours, trimming perks, and pulling back on employee wellbeing. I see clients navigating these changes—some are being laid off, others are stepping into promotions, and some are suddenly leading teams twice the size after a re-org.

Whether change is welcome or not, it has a way of shaking our sense of security—and our confidence. It’s easy to start questioning yourself in moments like this: Am I ready for this? What if I can’t handle it? What if I’m not enough?

That’s where I help my clients most: in the messy, awkward, delicate moments of growth...navigating the space before, during, and after a transition. Because whenever there’s change—big or small—confidence wobbles. You’re letting go of what was (even if you didn’t like it) while stepping into the unknown. That in-between space can feel vulnerable and disorienting, even like grief.

The truth is: the person you were isn’t quite the person you’re becoming. And in that gap, it’s easy to take insecurity personally...as if there's something wrong with you.

But it's not you, it's the nature of transformation.

If you listen too long to the doubts, you may stumble and stay down longer than you have to...and that can cost you (job opportunities, your wellbeing, relationships, etc). If you find ways to steady yourself, you'll get to the other side more gracefully. Here are three of my favorite ways to deal with insecurity during times of transition - so you don't let imposter syndrome or fear keep you down.

1. Ask for highlights, not just fixes.
Most managers forget to share positive feedback, and most of us are too shy to ask. That can lead to massive unrest and self questioning. Change that. In one-on-ones, take a minute to ask where you’re meeting or exceeding expectations. You can frame it as: “Knowing my progress is motivating.” Hearing what’s working isn’t needy or fluff—it’s fuel to keep you engaged.

2. Focus on your feet, not the peak.
When the road ahead feels overwhelming, don’t try to take it all in at once. Instead, rest your gaze on what's in front of you. Ask yourself: “What’s the tiniest step I can take right now?” Even the smallest shift builds momentum, and once you’re moving, the path ahead feels less daunting and more doable. Demonstrate to yourself that you're in action versus stuck in the road.

3. Borrow confidence.
Lean on a friend, mentor, or colleague who can remind you of your strengths. In an experiment, researcher Simon Schnall found that people standing at the base of a hill saw it as less steep when a friend was by their side. Standing with someone who has your back changes how you perceive your reality.

Speaking of someone having your back...if you’ve been considering coaching, let's explore working together. Big shifts feel easier when you don’t go through them alone—and I’d love to support you. I’m currently taking on a handful of new clients, and this might be the perfect season to start. Click here to schedule a time with me.

And one last reminder: Don’t worry if you feel like you don’t yet have what it takes. You’re not supposed to. Who you become as you move through change is exactly what equips you for what’s next.

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