Well, this is embarrassing. For over a decade, I suffered through migraines for half the month—debilitating fatigue, days-long headaches, and waves of sadness that made me feel useless. Then I’d bounce back, full of energy and optimism… only to crash again.

We talk a lot these days about overcoming anxiety—but sometimes, the most powerful move is to embrace it.

Almost every morning, I wince.I walk into a chorus of complaints. My 4-year-old refuses to put on clothes because he’s “too cold.” My 10-year-old glares at the lunch I packed. I love them deeply. They’re incredible. But the whining...it's grating.

It’s funny… every time I work on something important — like my book or my latest article in Harvard Business Review — life seems to test me on the exact insight I’m writing about. This last one? It hurt.

I’m thrilled to share a new article I co-authored for Harvard Business Review with my dear colleague and friend, Lisa Zigarmi. It explores something profoundly close to my heart: attunement—the practice of being so present with someone that they feel truly seen, safe, and supported.